We Said “I Do,” Now What? The First Year of Marriage Tips
The wedding was magical, the honeymoon was blissful, and now… real life begins! The first year of marriage is an exciting, sometimes challenging, adjustment period as you and your spouse settle into your new life together. Here are some key tips to help you navigate this beautiful new chapter:
1. Keep Dating Each Other
Just because you’re married doesn’t mean the romance should stop! Schedule regular date nights—whether it’s a fancy dinner, a movie night at home, or a fun weekend getaway. Keeping the spark alive is essential.
2. Communicate (Even About the Small Things)
Good communication is the foundation of a strong marriage. Talk about your goals, your feelings, and even the day-to-day stuff. If something is bothering you, address it early rather than letting it build up.
3. Discuss Finances Openly
Money can be a major stressor in marriage if not handled properly. Set a budget, talk about your financial goals, and decide together how you’ll manage joint expenses. Whether you combine finances or keep things separate, make sure you’re on the same page.
4. Learn to Compromise
Marriage is a partnership, and that means compromise. You won’t always agree on everything, but learning how to meet in the middle will make your relationship stronger.
5. Set Boundaries With Friends & Family
It’s great to have support from loved ones, but setting healthy boundaries is important. Make decisions as a couple first before involving outside opinions.
6. Share Responsibilities
From household chores to decision-making, marriage works best when both partners contribute. Divide tasks in a way that feels fair and balanced for both of you.
7. Don’t Compare Your Marriage to Others
Every couple is different. Social media might make it look like everyone else has a perfect marriage, but real relationships take work. Focus on what makes you and your partner happy instead of comparing your journey to someone else’s.
8. Keep Learning About Each Other
People grow and change, even after marriage. Keep learning about your spouse’s dreams, fears, and interests. Stay curious and invested in their personal growth.
9. Seek Help When Needed
There’s no shame in seeking marriage counseling or advice if you hit a rough patch. Sometimes, a neutral third party can help strengthen your relationship.
10. Enjoy the Journey
Marriage isn’t about perfection—it’s about building a life together, full of love, laughter, and lessons. Celebrate your wins, learn from your challenges, and always choose love.
The first year of marriage is a time of adjustment, but it’s also the foundation for the years to come. Embrace the journey, give each other grace, and remember why you said “I do” in the first place! ❤️
Chineze Rodnique
Creator of Black Brides of RVA, Chineze Rodnique has a passion for celebrating women in every stage of their lives. After planning her Richmond Wedding she realized there was a need to bridge the gap between black owned wedding businesses and newly engaged black couples. This revelation led to the creation of an exciting community of support, inspiration, and celebration of Black Love in Richmond, Virginia.